“Above all else, we choose to stay. We choose to fight the darkness and the sadness, to fight the questions and the lies and the myth of all that’s missing. We choose to stay, because we are stories still going. Because there is still some time for things to turn around, time for surprises and for change. We stay because no one else can play our part.”—
A White House website petition calling on President Obama to proclaim observance of Bi Visibility Day has just launched – but needs to reach 100,000 signatures to ensure a formal response from the White House. With four weeks to go, can we find 100,000 bisexuals and allies to sign their names?
The petition reads:
Recognize International Celebrate Bisexuality Day.
Every year since 1999, bisexuals and our supporters have celebrated our unique ability to love someone no matter their gender on September twenty-third. Some people refer to this day as “International Celebrate Bisexuality Day” and others refer to it as “Bi Visibility Day”. We face the unique problem of invisibility- when we are in same-sex relationships people assume we are gay, and when we are in opposite-sex relationships it is assumed that we are straight. In fact, many people assert that we do not exist at all. [Source: http://www.upmc.com/media/NewsReleases/2013/Pages/gender-racial-sexuality-differences-exist-in-attitudes-toward-bisexuality.aspx] Mr. President, can you help us by proclaiming the observance of International Celebrate Bisexuality Day in the United States?
It is not about who pays for the date. It is not about who moves the couch. It is not about who kills the bugs. It is not about who cooks the dinner. It’s not even about who stays home with the kids, as long as the decision was made together, after thinking carefully about your situation and coming to an agreement that makes sense for your particular marriage and family.
It is about making sure that nobody ever has to do anything by “default” because of their gender. The stronger person should move the couch. The person who enjoys cooking more, has more time for it, and/or is better at it should do the cooking. Sometimes the stronger person is male, sometimes not. Sometimes the person who is best suited for cooking is female, sometimes not. You should do what works.
But it is also about letting people know that it is okay to change. If you’re a woman who wants to become stronger, that’s great. If you’re a man who wants to learn how to cook, that’s also great. You might start out with a relationship where the guy opens all the jars and the girl cooks all the meals, but you might find that you want to try something else. So try it.”—4 ignorant delusions people have about feminism (via brutereason)
“چرا توقف کنم،چرا؟
پرنده ها به ستوی جانب آبی رفته اند
افق عمودی است
افق عمودی است و حرکت : فواره وار
و در حدود بینش
سیاره های نورانی میچرخند
زمین در ارتفاع به تکرار میرسد
و چاههای هوایی
به نقب های رابطه تبدیل میشوند
و روز وسعتی است
که در مخیله ی تنگ کرم روزنامه نمیگنجد
چرا توقف کنم؟
راه از میان مویرگ های حیات می گذرد
کیفیت محیط کشتی زهدان ماه
سلول های فاسد را خواهد کشت
و در فضای شیمیایی بعد از طلوع
صدا که ذوب ذره های زمان خواهد شد .
چرا توقف کنم؟”—
Why should I stop, why? The birds have gone in search of the blue plane, The horizon is vertical The horizon is vertical and its movement fountain-like And in the corner of my eye Shining planets spin, The earth starts to rotate in synchrony, And wells of air Convert into converging tunnels; And the day is an expanse That cannot be contained in the narrow mind of the worm that is the daily paper.
Why should I stop? The path passes between the capillaries of life, The Moon’s nurturing womb Will kill the rotting cells. And within the chemical space after sunrise Is only the voice. The voice that will melt into the atoms of time Why should I stop?
“Community is doing life with other people. It’s showing up for people at 2 AM. It’s random diner trips and deep conversations. Community is people who cheer for you and get on planes to see you and show up at the train station to grab you when you need a ride. They are people you can call and cry to. Community is made up of individuals who get you and ask the tough questions.”—
There’s nothing more complex than human beings. And while we come alive in our idiosyncrasies, they sometimes tear us apart when they should humble us and hold a mirror up to our own shortcomings and gifts.
To this real love, I owe you an apology. I’ve dismissed you, belittled you and written you off because you didn’t appear at my doorstep in the beautifully wrapped package I was conditioned to seek. I should have seen the best of me in you, but I didn’t recognize your face. But I see you now.
Thank you for holding out, knowing I’d find my way back…
Were I not frail and half broken inside, I wouldn’t be thinking of them, who are, like me, half broken inside. I would not climb the cemetery hill by the church To get rid of my self pity. Crazy Sophies, Michaels who lost every battle, Self-destructive Agathas Lie under…
“I had lines inside me, a string of guiding lights. I had language. Fiction and poetry are doses, medicines. What they heal is the rupture reality makes on the imagination. I had been damaged, and a very important part of me had been destroyed - that was my reality, the facts of my life. But on the other side of the facts was who I could be, how I could feel. And as long as I had words for that, images for that, stories for that, then I wasn’t lost.”—Jeanette Winterson (via writersrelief)
“Fiction gives us empathy: it puts us inside the minds of other people, gives us the gifts of seeing the world through their eyes. Fiction is a lie that tells us true things, over and over.”—Neil Gaiman- Fahrenheit 451 Introduction (via dortheaisles)
“You must want to enough. Enough to take all the rejections, enough to pay the price of disappointment and discouragement while you are learning. Like any other artist you must learn your craft—then you can add all the genius you like.”—Phyllis A. Whitney (via writersrelief)